4 Words Your Husband Does Not Want to Hear You Say!

talking 5 4 Words Your Husband Does Not Want to Hear You Say!Sometimes when talking to our better half we like to say things that as ladies we don’t think much about, but men have a different way of hearing things than we do.  It is important to remember this.

What do you think those 4 words that I have mentioned would be?

They are: “WE NEED TO TALK.”

Those four little words scare the crap out these wonderful gentlemen we love.  Now I realize if someone says to us ladies, “We need to talk”, we would just say, “OK, what do you want to talk about?”  And be very interested in what needed to be said.

Choose To Be Happy; Under Any Situation!

In my last post I was talking about the REAL PATHWAY to happiness.  I found myself in this situation during the Christmas and New Year season.  My happiness within was clearly put to the test big time and I did come out on top.

Let me explain a little history.  My lovely husband, God bless him is on this kick of wanting to retire.  I can really understand this, but one cannot get obsessed with something that isn’t going to happen for a few years and let it take away your daily happiness.  After all it’s not like he is 65 years old.  He has a little ways to go, yet.  I do understand his wanting to retire and all that, but I refuse to let his fears destroy my happiness on a daily bases.

Secret To Happiness: Do I Have Low Self-Esteem Part 3

While you might already have a good indication that you are suffering from low self-esteem, it might be a good idea to explore this a little further.  The more we explore our personality the closer we can be to choose happiness with all our choice we make in life.                                                       concentration picture 300x199 Secret To Happiness: Do I Have Low Self Esteem Part 3

Take this simple quiz.

Personality Self-Esteem Assessment

Directions:  Answer T if the statement is true for you.  Answer F if the statement is false for you.

T  F   I am able to discuss my good points, skills, abilities, achievements and successes with others.

T  F   I assert myself with someone whom I believe is violating or ignoring my rights.

T  F   I am content with who I am, how I act, and what I do in life.

T  F   I am not bothered by feelings of insecurity or anxiety when I meet people for the first time.

T  F   My life is balanced between work, family life, social life, recreation/leisure and spiritual life.

T  F   I am aware of the roles I played in my family of origin and have usually been able to make these
behavior patterns work for me in my current life.

T  F   I am bonded with the significant others in my environment at home, work, school, at play, or in the
community.

T  F   I am able to perform the developmental tasks necessary to ensure my ongoing healthy self-esteem.

T  F   I am satisfied with my level of achievement at school, work, home, and in the community.

T  F   I am a good problem solver; my thinking is not clouded by irrational beliefs or fears.

T  F   I am willing to experience conflict, if necessary to protect my rights.

If you selected F for three or more of the preceding questions, you probably need to work at increasing your self-esteem, so you can find your happiness within.  That’s what we’re here for!  But that comes a little later!

There are many, many indicators that a person has low-self-esteem.  Consider this list.

People with low self- esteem:

  • Consider themselves lost, unworthy of being cared for

Happiness Within Starts with Compassion

The very purpose of life is to love and Be happy. From the core of our being, we desire Happiness. I have found that the more we care for the happiness and contentment of others the greater our own sense of happiness grows. This helps remove our fears or insecurities we have and gives us the strength to cope with obstacles we encounter daily. We are not solely material creatures and it would be a mistake to place our hopes for happiness on external development alone.

Compassion can start with a simple smile.  Here is a bowl of smiles I would like you to help me spread them around.Copy of bowl of smile faces Happiness Within Starts with Compassion