How Can You Choose Happiness When You’re Frustrated?

Audrey Biloon, The Contented Life Coach, helps us understand this and turns a negative situation into a positive one we can learn from. You don’t have to tear out your hair!

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This is not the way to Happiness

FRUSTRATION ON THE ROAD TO CONTENTMENT

Audrey Biloon
The Contented Life Coach

What should we do with people who seem to be stumbling blocks on the road to understanding our purpose in life and the goal of feeling contented and happy each day?

How can we feel happy and contented with our lives when we meet or have to be around (though work or family) those who frustrate us?

What Makes You Happy?

Do you ever have those days where you just don’t feel outgoing, enthusiastic and positive?  You’re just plain feeling low.  How do you break those moods, so you don’t sit around having a pity party, eating all day and feeling stressed out?

“Be thankful for what you have: You’ll end up having more.  If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”  By Oprah Winfrey

Simple things that I do when I’m feeling challenged is to remember:

Happiness Happens When You Least Expect It!

If 2009 was about focusing on what we lost, 2010 should be about focusing on what we have.

Many families are finding new rewards when they change their priorities.  Take for example this family that Gimundo featured.  They sold their 6,500 house for a smaller house and gave the profits on the big house to charity.

Get what you need: In 2008 it was all about the big houses, fancy cars and dining out.  In 2009 the bottom fell out of the economy.  Some of you may think that my elevator got stuck, but is the change in the economy really a bad thing? People are now taking a second look at what is really important.

Make Happiness Happen!

Change your attitude to be more positive, and your mood will lift.  The other day I went to the store and it was really busy.  As I stood in line waiting for my turn I could tell how impatient people were getting.

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When my turn finally came the clerk looked at me and said, “How are you doing?”
I looked at her and replied, “I think better then you are doing, how much long until you get to go home?”  She looked at me and said, “Just a couple of hours.”  I replied with, “Good.”

Choose happiness with Happy Thoughts

In an average day it is estimated that we have around 60,000 thoughts.  Have you consciously wondered how many of your thoughts are happy thoughts?

Let’s face it happy people think more happy thoughts than unhappy people. It sure doesn’t take rocket science to figure that out.  Clearly when we think happy thoughts, we create our happiness within, which obviously leads to a happier out come in any situation.

Happy thoughts connect us and give confidence and courage to act, which in turn empowers us to believe.  Obviously is this going to help live our lives according to our hopes and dreams.

Secret to Happiness: Your Self-Esteem; Conclusion

Your self-esteem is like a star at night that shines brightest when it is the darkest. It is your inner light that burns brightly and freely no matter what is happening around you. A Zen saying reminds us: “What was your original face before you were born?”

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Happiness Within, Don’t let Anyone Snatch it Away!

Sometimes to keep our happiness we do have adversities that we have to overcome.  I received this email and it really makes me angry.  Yes, it is OK to be happy, but yet feel anger.  Anger can be a response to making things right.  It can be recognizing that there is a problem that needs solved.

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When I look at these pictures I feel that for our future happiness and the happiness of future generations this is a problem.

These pictures were taken from London.    However I do know this for sure, you can only believe half of what you see and less of what you read.  Supposedly these pictures are from Muslins marching through the streets of London during their “Religion of muslins21 300x284 Happiness Within, Dont let Anyone Snatch it Away!peace Demonstration.”    A Canadian forwarded this e mail because that Canadian felt that American’s should see this, since it is not shown on our TV or newspapers.

When it comes to choosing happiness we have to look at any given situation and decide if it is a problem that needs to be solved or if it just someone’s opinion.  In my opinion yes, this is a problem, but we cannot turn our anger toward all Muslims, just like we may be angry with a drunk driver that caused traffic accident and took someone’s life. All drivers are not drinking while driving.  Even though sometimes, it does appear like they got their license out of a cereal box.

Anger is good when it is used constructively.  Right now our country (America) is trying to solve this problem.  What we can do that is going to help us stay happy within, is back our military troops fighting this war.   Practice compassion for our neighbors and people in time of need.  Never forget that “Happiness within starts with compassion.”

Remember this; “All that we are is the result of what we have thought.  If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him.  If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness followed him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”  By Buddha

In this situation if a group of Muslims really believe what these signs say and they are carrying them around in a demonstration this is an evil act. Evil will follow them.  As Americans we need to keep our thoughts pure and do things for the right reasons and happiness within shall follow us.

I realize you may be thinking this is off the wall for a post on a happy blog, but we live in a world that has a lot going on at all times, just like in our daily lives do.  If we do not take a look at what is going on around us and pay attention, someone can come and snatch it away while we are not looking.

Choose to be happy by paying attention to our surrounding and what is going on in the world.  If these pictures are the real thing we need to back our armed forces everyday and be thankful for them.

God Bless all free countries in this world and may we all join forces to provide a peaceful  and loving world to future generation, so they can always have happiness within.

Debbie Dee

P.S.  A Tender Warrior represents a collection of experience, photographs and wisdom from the life of a General which is a perspective most of us will never have.  The essence of leadership is caring about people and General Moore was and is a master in the art of caring.  Thank those who have, are and will serve for their leadership, dedication and great example for all of us to follow.  Enjoy this 3 minute movie

Choosing Happiness Means Learning Self-Discipline and the Money Shall Certainly Follow

The Law of Concentration says that, “Whatever you dwell upon, grows and increases in your life.”

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I learn this lesson years ago when I was a single parent trying to raise 3 daughters.  The more I thought about the money I didn’t have the less money I had.  To correct this problem I started doing a lot of reading about my self-discipline and character.  Learning about whom I really was and what I realized; that who I was is how I saw myself.  Obviously this was not good.  I made the choice to change how I seen myself and that changed who I was.

What You Need to Know About Choosing Happiness for Your Children!

In raising our children we do not realize how we can be hurting them.  When I was growing up I remember how my mother (bless her heart) used  to tell me you didn’t get the dishes clean, you didn’t scrub the floor right, you can’t do that and the list went on.  She had no idea what she was really doing to me.  She thought she was teaching me and it was her way of trying to get me to do things the right way. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!!!  The secret to my happiness was going right out the window.