About Debbie
 Who is Debbie Bills?
Debbie is a Happy…person who operates her business at home with her desk top. She started out with a lap top and now has expanded her business. Her goal is to share as much happiness with people as she can. She does not have the college degrees that others have. Her happiness has evolved around life experiences. You can read about happiness in many books, but until you have lived happiness can you really express it to other people? She draws on her experiences life has offered her, through the ups and downs over the years and the willingness and thrill to keep learning.
The five important things you need to find your happiness:
1. A desire to be happy.
2. Appreciate what you already have in your life.
3. Learn to enjoy the moment.
4. Have a sense of humor.
5. Be a child some of the time.
Debbie feels that life experiences cannot be taught in a class rooms like history, math, science, engineering or the medical field, etc. Everyone has a different set of circumstances and they react to them differently. Your happiness depends on you and who you are and how willing you want to know yourself. With sin in the world she feels that one has to learn to work around it through it or underneath it when necessary. You aren’t born happy, but everyone has the right to be happy. It is not going to be handed to you like a silver spoon, but it is there if you have a desire to want happiness.
This is the short story of her life:
The first 20 years of my life were spent on a farm in western Nebraska. I grew up with 3 sisters and 3 brothers. I was the fifth child out of seven and the youngest of the girls, which can be a pain. The older sisters never seem to think you grow up and really know anything. This is ok, because in the end you grow up stronger for it.
We lived in a four room house without indoor plumping until I was 12 years old. My father was a hired hand for a farmer, which in turn meant that we really didn’t have much money. My mother would clean houses for people or clean the school house to make extra money. Sometimes she would take care of older people to earn that extra money. In the summer time when we were old enough we would do field work to help out. Don’t feel bad for me, because at that age you really don’t know any better and feel it is part of life.
I went to a three room school that was from kindergarten to the 8th grade. When I was in the 7th grade we did move to house that had in door plumping. Let me tell you this was nice. It was really great sitting in a real tub and taking a bath. Having an indoor bathroom was really great if you know what I mean. Those out houses just don’t cut the mustard and the toilet paper really sucks.
Right now you are probably thinking, “Man she was raised with the dinosaurs.” It wasn’t that far back, but I do remember those darn horse flies in the summer time. Boy, when they bite you it really hurt. We did have the lighting bugs that we had fun catching in a jar. We didn’t have a lot of toys, so we made up our own fun. We walked on tomato cans with strips of rubber tied on them, so they would stay on our feet. Took 5 gallon barrels and laid them on their side and played tag by rolling them and catching one another. I don’t want to forget the big tracker tires we would crawl inside and roll down a hill. The corrals we would walk on and hope if we fell off the fence it was on the clean side and not in the inside where all the manure was. If you fell on the wrong side let me tell you it was not good and it sure wasn’t pretty.
Life was very simple and we did have a lot of fun. Even back then I learned to take the negative and make something positive out of it. We were rich with LOVE not things.
When I was in high school it also was a small school. We had kindergarten through the 12th grade. When I graduated from high school it was a class of twelve students. I enjoyed those years, but at the same time I knew that when I had children I wanted them to go to a better school then I went to. We didn’t have the opportunity that larger schools had. (That is why I love these computer programs these days with spell check.)
I almost forgot to tell you that I didn’t have a house with a telephone until after I left home and was on my own. The thing about that is you really don’t know what you are missing if you’ve never had it, so it doesn’t take away your happiness. When I see some of the children and adults in today’s world I feel a little sorry for them; they have trouble when it comes to being happy, because of all the modern convinces they have always had. It’s like they cannot be happy without all the frails. As for me I’m just happy having an inside bathroom and spell check.
Those early years in one’s life do mold you in many ways, but we always need to remember that as adults we can change the things we brought with us from those early years. One phrase I always found helpful is, “You are an adult when you forgive your parents for what you think they did to you.” As parents we do the best job that we can in raising our children, but parents are never perfected and we all make mistakes.
Once I got out on my own I became aware of who I really was and what I really wasn’t. It seemed as though I was trying to break every record there ever was when it came to making mistakes. First of all when my heart got broken, I just took the next thing that came around and married him. I thought this would help me forget about my heart being broken. I believe the term for that is REBOUND. We all know that does not work and it lasted only 2 years.
After that I decided to get out of the small town that I grew up in and moved to the city. Now this really was a good move. The only trouble was that those busy freeways where nothing like the dirt roads that I was use too and I had a real fear of getting lost. I still have that fear, but not as bad as I had it back then. Let me tell you when you are use to one lane going one way and another lane going the other way and then you get on a freeway with all the lanes and roads going off in all different directions, that can be very fearful at first.
I did realize that the fear of being lost came from when I was 4 years old and got left in the car by mistake after going to the drive in as a family and my parents didn’t realize I had fallen asleep in the car. They went into the house without me; I woke up a few hours later. Knowing I couldn’t stay in the car I managed to get to the house in the middle of the night by myself. I remember that one like it was yesterday. This is good though, because it helped my understand that fear, so one can then change it.
Things were good in the city. Found myself a job and made new friends. Finally after a few years I met my husband to be. When it came to this person all the warning signs were there for another big mistake, but I just wasn’t listening to them. He was the type of person that was pretty cold when it came to emotions. I being the loving person that I am decided that if I showed him enough love things would be good. After 3 kids and 13 years I realized that he was who he wanted to be and there was nothing that I could do about it. You never can change anyone; they are who they want to be unless they decide to change.
This is when I got real serious about finding out why I kept making mistakes and wrong chooses.
To be honest I could say the marriage had been a complete mistake, but I had 3 beautiful daughters, that were great, I will never see it as a mistake. At the same time when it came to my chose of men I did not have a very good batting average. What I really needed to know is why I was making this mistake.
When things don’t seem to be going right in a person’s life before you go blaming others or circumstances in the situation you have to take a look at yourself. This sure seemed to be one of those situations where the same thing kept happening, so I must be the problem. I was responsible for my situation.
Why was I making this same mistake over and over? I went to the book store and got myself some books on relationships, etc. I read and read some more. Soon it all became clearer to me. When I was a child my father did a lot of drinking. He was a weekend alcoholic. As a child I thought maybe if I loved him more or did something he would stop his drinking. Because of this I would pick men that I always thought I could help. Not a good thing.
What I really like about myself is that when something isn’t right I look for the reason and see if it is me and in my control to change it or if it is not in my control walk away from it. This I could change now that I was aware of my own short comings and wrong chooses.
Things were rough after my divorce. The 3 girls and I didn’t have much, but we had each other and a lot of LOVE. I knew also that we had the Good Lord with us. That was one wonderful thing that my mother gave me when I was growing up. My faith; I do know that is why I do not have any trouble when it comes to being happy regardless what shape my life happens to be in. That’s one thing nice when it comes to the Lord; when the same thing keeps happening to you; he has a way of letting you know you need to do something different if you want it to stop repeating the same problem.
I got through those rough years after my divorce with child support coming once in a while and the girls where wonderful through it all. The nice things about hard times, is that if you handle them right it can bring people together even more. Everybody finds out what they are made of and what really counts in this life we’re given.
I finally did find the right man. He is wonderful (most of the time) after all as I said before parents are not perfect and that goes for all people. It would be rather boring if we were perfect, don’t you think?
I have gone through some other really tough times through these last years, but with the Good Lord, my family now and my happy attitude I get through them. It’s really neat how your attitude can really make a big different in our lives.
Now I shall tell you how I came to writing about happy…and happiness. After I got married again I was working in accounting for a car dealership. I loved my job, because I enjoyed working with figures. That has always been one of my strong points. Any way to make a story a little shorter the dealership changed office managers. Now if anyone knows anything about car dealerships when management changes many things change. The new person loves to bring in there on people, especially when you know more than the new manager. You really have to feel sorry for a person like this, because if they looked at the situation in a positive way they are in a position to learn a lot. I feel it has a lot to do with how people handle change in their lives. With change I always remember when one door closes and better door opens.
Do to the fact that this person was intimidated by my knowledge with figures (I really am humble) she decided to black ball me when it came to getting another job. Would you believe she put me through a four hour unemployment hearing that consist of an 86 page transcript before it was all done. By the way I did win the unemployment benefits. I have to admit that all the lies that she told did hurt very much. Sometimes those are situations that we can’t control, so we just have to pick up the pieces and move on.
After trying to find a job with no success I really wanted to help people with their problems and help them see and understand if they were trying to find a happy…life. To me life is very short and we do not have time to waste being unhappy. Life is to be enjoyed and grow as a person. We have to learn to be strong and not let other peoples unhappiness mess around with our happiness. When my husband ask me what I wanted to do when I grew up, I told him that I wanted to have a website that helps people be Happy… I think he thought I had lost my mind, but he didn’t tell me that. The reason for this is he knew that when I was growing up my parents told me that I never did anything right. If I washed the dishes they were never clean, if I cleaned the floor it was never right. I have realized that my mother was just trying to teach me, she didn’t understand how her words would stay with me for many years. When it came to men my father always told me that I landed on a cactus when it came to choosing a man to be with. He didn’t realize that his words put that into my head, so I did what I was told. But, boy let me tell you, you do learn one way or another, because those cacti are not comfortable. I am now proving both of my parents wrong and it feels wonderful. Even though they were doing the best job of raising me they could. For that I will always love them both.
As for my siblings, my oldest sister we lost 20 years ago. As for the rest of us, that is whole story in its self. I can tell you this much right now; it is very true that hate can and will destroy, so any one reading this if you hate someone, please work on that. To really be happy in this life you cannot carry any hate in your heart. It is a very sad way to live your life and it is going to destroy you. I’ll talk to you and share that story with you at a later date.
Here are some pictures of my family (the 3 girls and their family’s)Still have to get some pictures of the guys!
Through this website, along with links to other sites and my personal Happy... BLOG,I hope to inspire individuals to find their own Happy... and get more of what they want out of life. I invite individuals everywhere to come here to get ideas and inspiration and hope that you will read my blog and submit your comments.
No matter where you are in your life right now, I hope you have a Happy... day!
With my best wishes and much happiness,
Debbie, Happy Maker creator
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