1 Little Known Factor That Can Destroy Your Marriage

marriage 4 1 Little Known Factor That Can Destroy Your MarriageWe all have needs that need to be meant in marriage.  One of these, that we all have in common is SEX!

Maybe there are a few out there that don’t really care how important this is, so if you are one of those just hit the back button and move on.

For those of you that have been wondering how important sex is in a marriage let me enlighten you.

For 13 years I pretty much lived in a sexless marriage.  There was sex, but it was wham bang thank you.  It was an act, not making love, because there really was not any interaction between us.

With this marriage there was No communication, trying to talk to him about my need got me know where.  Yes, that is one BIG reason that I moved on.  My hubby now, had the same problem with his marriage, NO SEX LIFE.

Life is full now; we laugh about the past and enjoy having a sex life together.

Sex is a very important part of any marriage; it bonds 2 people together in a personal intimate way. 

From talking to people and doing some research I have found many men complain that they have no sex life.  Ladies this will kill your marriage sooner or later.

Here are 5 reasons that get in the way of “Making Love” and having sex on the bottom of your priority list:

1.  Life is busy:
By the end of the day I’m tired from taking care of kids, cleaning the house, having to work a job, let alone having to cooking, but if you want to keep that hubby of yours you need to make, making love a priority.

2.  It isn’t any fun:
Talk to each other and fine out the real reason it doesn’t seem fun.  A good book I recommend is, “Lovemaking Resource”.   There is nothing vulgar or in bad taste, just great tips for getting you in the right mood and looking forward to love making.

3.   I don’t like Sex:
Either someone has given you the wrong idea about sex and making love or you have a medical problem.  Sex is not just for pro creating.  If that was the case we would have been given an on and off button.

4.  I am embarrassed and don’t like the way my body looks:
Nobody has a perfect body, not even the man you are making love too.  It has nothing to do with the way your body looks, but how your body response to his/her love making.  If nothing else, turn off the damn lights.

5.   It just doesn’t feel good:
If this is the problem you are not telling your man what does feel good.  If you don’t know what turns you on, do a little investigating on your own and get to know your body and what makes it respond and turns you on.  There is nothing dirty about getting to know yourself and your body.  It is part of getting to know the true you.  If it is painful than you need to talk to your Doctor.

Sex is a subject that needs communication just like all things that involve marriage and great relationships.  It is part of the puzzle!

Don’t disregard this important piece of the puzzle, it will destroy what you thought was a great marriage.  Marriage without little sex or no sex is a relationship that turns into a “Living Arrangement.”

 So what is your excuse for not having a love life?   Where you taught that you don’t talk about sex?  Well get over it and get that communication going.  You have no idea what you are really missing.  You know the old saying, “Use it or lose it.”

 

If that isn’t enough to get you going, jump on the band wagon when it comes to exercise.  Sex is a great way to get a GOOD work out.

Your PC will still be there when you get done having some REAL fun, so move it baby!  Good Sex gets that blood flowing and gives your heart a good workout!

 

 

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  1. Nancy Shields
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    Excellent post and so very TRUE – I think it works both ways – sometimes it’s the ladies that don’t respond to sex and at times it’s the men – in either case, something needs to be done for it what created for us to give us pleasure.

    It’s the giving and taking at the same time -

    Beautiful,
    Nancy

    • Debbie Bills says:

      Hi Nancy,

      Thank you, Nancy. Yes, this does work both ways, have been there. Sex is a very pleasure and wonderful part of the relationships when we do know how to give and take at the same time. I had to work on the taking at one time, since I am should I say “to much of a giver.” When we have the right partner anything can be overcome.
      Thank you for sharing and may your day bring many blessing to you
      Hugs to you, nancy,
      Debbie

  2. Corinne Edwards
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    says:

    Dear Debbie -

    A brave post.

    I agree – it would be nice if both parties had great sex. It is a wonderful asset to a marriage and it helps to gloss over any other difficulties.

    I have a male friend (really just a friend) who says that men are interested mainly in two things -

    Where they work and where they get sex.

    My impression is that great sex is important to men – but as long as they get it It keeps them happy.

    Women are more sensitive and want the rest of it – tenderness and attention. And a lot of that is according to their moods and their time of life.

    My take on it is go the distance. Give your guy what he wants. It does not take very long to keep a man happy. Go for it and wait until you are in the mood to really emjoy it.

    I bet you didn’t expect that answer.

    • Debbie Bills says:

      Hi Corinne,

      I like your addition to the post. Thanks for sharing. LOL I have found that they are much happier when they get it.

      the happier you keep them the more they want to keep you happy.

      It is interesting to hear what your male friend has to say. Work and sex is what they are interested in. Does make sense.
      You made me smile again and I thank you.
      Hugs to you Corinne.
      Debbie

  3. Carole says:

    For 13 years I pretty much lived in a sexless marriage. There was sex, but it was wham bang thank you. It was an act, not making love, because there really was not any interaction between us.

    With this marriage there was No communication, trying to talk to him about my need got me know where. Yes, that is one BIG reason that I moved on. My hubby now, had the same problem with his marriage, NO SEX LIFE.

    • Debbie Bills says:

      Hi Carole,

      First of all thank you for sharing your story. I do know how the wham bank thank you goes. Been there and done that. You are right it is an act and has nothing at all to do with love. It is a very selfish act.
      I really understand where you are coming from, sounds like a copy of my life and my hubbies. He had no sex in is marriage either. There wasn’t even a thank you sir, just get out of my way and leave me alone.

      W”hen it comes to the communication that is on BIG RED FLAG. If you don’t have that there is NO relationship.

      I am so very happy for you that you found the right man to love you like you deserve. Just keep the sex coming and the commlunication and life well be wonderful. Thanks again for sharing. I love to hear happy endings and new beginning.
      Blessings to you and yours always,

      Debbie

  4. Felicia says:

    I agree with your post, Debbie. Most of the times marriages fail because there was no sex life anymore or the couple are so busy with other things that they forgot what’s brought them together in the first place. Having sex should be fun for married couples, and not just a way to have children.
    It’s actually fairly easy to satisfy a man when it comes to sex, but for the women, they normally want tenderness, thoughtfulness, affection, pampering and many other things first before they totally give in to sex.
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    • Debbie Bills says:

      Hi Felicia,

      Thanks again. Yesa, when it comes to women we do what and need that tenderness, thoughtfulness, affection and a little pampering. A sexless marriage is only having a roommate. For marriage to be complete you do need it for the intimacy. Thanks again for sharing. You have this one down with the right attitude.
      Blessings to you,
      Debbie

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