Not too long ago I made a comment on Ken Wert blog, “Meant to be Happy”. After commenting Ken ask me how I got into blogging. The truth is after being rejected.
Whether it is a love relationship, family, peers or job related rejection can happen. I have been rejected by love relationships, some family members, and in the corporate world. I am very thankful, because I wouldn’t be who I have become without having gone through rejection.
My work related rejection story in short form:
I was working for a car dealership and was very good at my job. Management changed and new management wanted to bring in some of their own people. I am a humble person (anyway I try to be), but let’s face it I knew more about my job than my new boss, so I was out the door.
I was told in an unemployment hearing what a bad person I was, since she needed a reason for getting rid of me. Yes, at first this really hurt and I had a little trouble comprehending what they did and said about me. Then I realized the reason for the verbal abuse. My new boss was only hurting herself in the long run and it really had nothing to do with me. She would do or say anything to get what she wanted, because of her own fears.
After several months of not finding a job, because I was literally black ball from the job market, I started to pray and figure out just what I wanted to be when I grew up. LOL
One day it came to me to have a website about happiness, teaching people about what lessons life has taught me. As you can see I have narrowed it down to relationships and the secret to happiness.
I am very thankful for the rejection from the corporate world.
We deal with rejections all through life and if you don’t see it for what it really is you can be consume by rejection. Use these easy ideas, so rejection will stimulate you and prepare you for a much happier and better life.
1. Rejection is just another person’s opinion. We cannot let someone else’s opinion affect who or what we are and take away our self-esteem. We are all different and when someone rejects us, it really has nothing to do with us, unless of course we are real big #@% hole.
2. Rejection is letting us know that this relationship is not good for any parties involved for some reason. It has nothing to do with your self-esteem or ego. Look at it like a boat in the water with no motor or oars to make it go.
3. Rejection makes us stronger. It gives us a chance to examine who we are and if we want or need to make any changes in ourselves.
4. Rejection helps us to take the right path in life. If it had not been for the rejection in the corporate world, I would not have found a passion I love.
5. Rejection in love relationships help us to be with the right person. This one can be a little hard to understand when your heart is breaking, but it is true. Ask yourself, “Do I really want to be in a love relationship with someone that doesn’t love me?” This is what I call a dead end street. You will never feel the love you deserve.
I have been rejected in love and I am very thankful. At the time I did not see the full picture, but now I see where that rejection has led me. I would not have the beautiful children that I have nor found the wonderful man that I am married too.
6. Embracing rejection is embracing unconditional love. What this means is that when someone rejects us, we can accept this, because of our love. Maybe they will be happier without us around and we want their happiness before our own. Love hurts, but staying with someone that rejects us will hurt us more in the long run. Walk away with the right attitude and you will find the one that truly loves you for who you really are.
Are you getting the picture of seeing rejection with the right attitude? Jesus felt rejection and he saved the world. I really wouldn’t go that far, because that is an act that is reallllly hard to follow.
Forget about your ego or self-esteem, it has nothing to do with either. Rejection keeps us on the path we are meant to be on. It helps us grown and become the best we can be when we have the right attitude and learn by it.
Rejection is a wonderful tool to learn from, so don’t reject it.
What rejections have you had to deal with and come out a better and happier person? Is rejection a good thing or a bad thing? I’ll be waiting for your take on this.
Blessing to you,