7 Warning Signs That You are Being Taken for Granted.

granted 7 Warning Signs That You are Being Taken for Granted.Never saying, Thank You.  If you are not hearing these words daily, you are being taken for granted!  Saying “Thank you”  to someone is letting the other person know that you appreciate what they have done for you.  So come on people be thankful, before that nice person says, “Screw you.”

Always doing what your partner wants to do.  Are there times when you want to do something as a couple with your friends, but it is always your partner’s friends you do things with?  You are being taken for granted.   Don’t be a victim, speak up and stick up for yourself.

You have flat spoiled your partner.  It is very easy to fall into this trap.  You love the other person, and are always going out of your way to please them.  But you’re not getting anything back any more.  You really need to sit down and have a chat with your partner and let them know.  And stop spoiling them.  Go on strike if you have too, then they will see how important you are to have around.

Being a passive person.  Are there little things your partner does that you don’t let them know about?   It’s easier to just go with the flow.  You are scared to make any waves.     There is going to be a title wave if you don’t speak up.    People do not read minds.  Get those little things of your chest before they eat you alive and mess up the relationship.

They are off doing their thing when they have free time.  You are going to get real tired of this and the more you let them get away with it the more they are going to go on their marry way.  You are a couple and to build the relationship they don’t need their time and space all the time.

You are doing all the work 24/7.  This is called a partnership and work is to be shared.  You have to sit down and make a list of what has to be done and share that list.  This goes for men that are working all day and women that are stay at home moms.  You both get tired, so come on help each other out.

Never discussing things, because life is too busy.  Big NO NO here.  Life is busy, but you can never get so busy that you aren’t talking to each other.  Everyone needs a little lovin and shoulder to lean on at times. Get that communication going and listen to each other.  After all you don’t want to lose your lovin connection.

If you are single, but just dating and you communicate how you are feeling, and nothing changes, I would go looked for love in another place, because you will always be taken for granted and that dating partner appears to be a little self centered.

As for you married couples we fall into the trap of just taking each other granted, because we get comfortable and don’t even realize that we are doing this.  Hope these tips will make you realize what is happening and start appreciating that beautiful partner of yours again.

thankyou 7 Warning Signs That You are Being Taken for Granted.I challenge you to write out a thank you note to that wonderful love of yours and let them know how much they are loved and appreciate.

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  1. Great tips, Debbie!

    I think that if people can avoid such sinkholes in our relationships, they will be well on their way to marital bliss!

    I’ve found that when we’ve hit rough spots in our relationship over the years, that it works a lot better to focus on the deep inner work of self-improvement rather than trying to work on the relationship itself and certainly better than trying to work on the spouse!

    Thanks for the warning signs!
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    • Hi Ken,

      Yea, working on the spouse does not work. LOL You can let them know if you feel you are being taken for granted, but if they don’t want to do anything about it that is there choice. Working on self-improvement is wonderful. By communicating with each other often we can learn about ourselves and than make good choices that will make our spouse happy and glad they are married to us.
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and what works for you and your spouse. I do appreciate any input that can also help me learn.
      Have a wonderful evening and blessing always,
      Debbie

  2. I’ve experienced all of these Debbie. For me, the worse outcome of each is not only being taken for granted, but the bitterness that begins to grow afterwards.

    Thanks for pointing out these important warning signs.

    Alex

    • Hi Alex,

      Yes, the bitterness can grow and destroy a relationship if it not tended too. I have had my hubby get comfort in our marriage at times and we just talk about it when I am feeling taken for granted. I do believe in my heart that when any problems show there face in a marriage or relationship if both people are willing to talk and listen the problem can be solved before bitterness takes hold.
      Thanks you for sharing,
      Debbie

  3. Jimmy/Life Architect says:

    Debbie,

    When I read your post, I feel as if you are directly referring to me. Many of the seven things you mentioned are happening to my wife and I. Sometimes I do feel that I have been pushed around been the nice guy. Even my ex- used to push me around. This time round, I am learning to exert more personal space. But speaking up is still a problem. But there is also something really special between us that I just can’t explain. I will take your post as a wake up call and try better communicating my feelings.

    Cheers
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    • Hi Jimmy,

      Speaking up and sticking up for yourself can be a hard one. This is something that I had to learn. When you feel safe with your spouse or partner you can always talk to them about how you are feeling. Remember if you do not stick up for yourself you are not doing your partner any favors. How is she to know how you are feeling if you don’t tell her. Being honest with each other will only bring you closer.

      think of it this way, If your spouse comes to you with her feeling wouldn’t you feel wonderful that she trusted you enough to confide in you. Wouldn’t it make you love her more, because of that trust?
      Hope this help and remember honesty only makes the love grow stronger. You deserve the best, so speak up.
      Blessing to you,
      Debbie

      • Jimmy/Life Architect says:

        Debbie,

        Thank you very much for your advise. I will sure go and be more open about my feelings to her. Now, that you mentioned, I remember that she was quite receptive to my needs in the few times I shared with her. I guess I have a problem of bottling it in.

        Cheers
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        • Hi Jimmy,

          That bottling up ones feeling just doesn’t cut it. Sooner or later they are likely to blow and that gets messy. LOL When we share our feeling it just brings people together, because it shows them that you trust them.
          Thank you Jimmy for sharing and cheers and blessing to you,
          Debbie

  4. Chukwuka Okwukwe Chukwuka
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    I must confess that these are good relationship tips;-)

    You rock, Debbie.

    • Hi Chukwuka,

      Good to here for you and hoping everything is going good for you. thank you I am pleased that you like my tips.
      You have a great day and blessing always my dear friend.
      Debbie

  5. Wow Debbie, great stuff.

    I don’t hear thank you very often, and it now just occurred maybe I am being taken granted for. However, I could probably thank others more myself.

    The list idea is a great one. I have so much I need to get done and I know my wife has the same problem. Maybe if we share a list we can help eac other a bit better.

    Thanks again,

    Bryce
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    • Hi Bryce,

      Sometimes we do get so busy and feel like we have so much to get done, that we forget to enjoy what is there at the moment. Thank you is a great way to get back on track. It is a lot of fun to start thanking people and see how they react to it. Making a list so you know what you need to do to help each other is very useful.
      thank you for sharing we me and have a wonderful day, Bryce.
      Debbie

  6. Larry Lewis says:

    Great points here. You make it very clear what signs we should look out to detect if we are being taken for granted. I fear that often when we are in a relationship, and we detect things are not going as well as we would want, we close ourselves of, to avoid confrontation, or even to avoid having to deal with things. Only when we leave can we look clearly and see all these tell tell signs. If only we could analyse things at the time, seeing things clearly, and deal with them at the time
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    • Hi Larry,

      It is much better to deal with things as they come up and it build the relationship. It shows each other the trust that we have in them, when we share with each other. We have feeling for a reason and they should never be shoved aside.
      Closing ourselves off is a know win situation.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and blessing to you,
      Debbie

  7. Excellent pointers here Debbie,
    I admit to a couple of x’s here that need some work. Thank you.
    be good to yourself
    David
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    • Hi David,

      I’ll be good to myself, if you promise to be good to yourself, LOL. Hey, I have to admit I can let some of these slide at times. To me my marriage is one of the most important relationships I could ever have, so I just have fun, show him how grateful I am and if he starts taking me for granted, I let him know and it works wonders.
      Thank you for sharing and your honesty. Blessing to you.
      Debbie

  8. I really like tips and how they try to explain the way atop maintain the relation ships , I feel this is something really interesting and tips that will be helpful to every one who read this article. I really want to follow this and help others also with these beautiful tips.
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    • Hi Lola,

      I am glad that you like these tips and I hope they are very helpful to you. I don’t have a problem with you sharing them with otherrs.
      Thank you for sharing your thought with me.
      Blessing to you, Debbie

  9. Good reminders Debbie. When we’ve been with someone for awhile, or even new to a relationship, we can fall into unhealthy habits and then our resentment shines through. Some of us are givers and wonder why no one is giving back. Some of us fade into the woodwork and wonder why no one notices us. We all have a part in the role we play, and I know when I get resentful, I need to ask myself what my role is in the situation.
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    • Hi Cathy,

      You are right. When we are being taken for granted or as you say, “fade into the woodwork” we do need to ask ourselves what part we play in the way we are feeling. If one can not speak up and let another know how they feel, how can it be fixed.” Communicating our emotions to the people we love is very important, even the little things.
      You are a smart woman Cathy for asking your self what your role is in the situation.
      Thank you for sharing with me, especially the role we can play in it ourselves.
      Blessing to you,
      Debbie

  10. Hi Debbie,
    I love hearing a sincere “Thank You” from anyone that I have helped. One of my pet peeves is when I hold a door open for someone and they don’t even acknowledge it.
    Justin recently posted..What Matters To YouMy Profile

    • Hi Justin,

      That is one thing that I always remember to do, is thank someone when they hold the door open for me. My hubby still holds the door open for me and I always remember to thank him. Even when we go out to eat I always thank him. (even though it is our money paying for it) It is about the thought of going out and the company in having him there.

      With that I would like to give you a sincere “Thank You” for stopping by and sharing your thought on this post with me. “Thank You”
      Blessing always, Justin,
      Debbie

  11. Hi Debbie,

    Saying thank you is a very important thing in life. It creates harmony with people and make everything easier in our relationships. It also helps build and enhance relationships. Thank you for sharing Debbie
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    • Hi Dia,

      Yes, I believe that we really can forget how important those 2 little words are”Thank You”. They do enhance relationships very much.
      So i want to thank you very much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts on this post.
      Blessing also,
      Debbie

  12. glad am not facing any of these problems now but i like the post so much :)
    keep it up Debbie :)

    • Hi farouk,

      Glad you are not facing and of these problems and good for you. Thank you for the kind words and I will give it my best shot to keep it up. thank you for the encouragement
      Blessing always,
      Debbie.

  13. I love when you say to go on strike. Sometimes just simply saying “Don’t take me for granted” gets you nothing. But putting actions behind those words is VERY effective.
    Shay recently posted..How Hard Should You Work to Make Your Relationship a Success?My Profile

    • Hi Shay,

      You are right Shay, sometimes we do have to put actions behind our words. As they say, some people don’t realize what they have until it isn’t there anymore. LOL Going on strike can take care of that problem real quick.
      Blessing to you and thank you for your comment. it is appreciate and fun.
      Debbie

  14. Debbie – thanks so much for pointing these out. It’s easy for me to fall into that first category of always doing what my partner wants to do, but that’s because I’m a really indecisive person. But once in a while I do make up my mind and decide something, so it’s important that I have someone flexible enough to say okay when I do finally speak up!

    • Yes, you are right here. Sounds to me like your guy understands you and has respect for you. When you speak up he listens. Is this guy a keeper?
      You have a wonderful evening and day tomorrow and always.
      Debbie

  15. Well said Debbie. People can’t read your minds that is why you really shouldn’t get made at someone for not addressing what you were hoping they would.

    • This is very true, people can not read minds, so we do have to let others know when something is bothering us. thank you for sharing and have a wonderful day.
      Blessing,
      Debbie

  16. It’s a heartbreaking scene to know that you are being taken for granted. These people are not worthy of being loved! Thanks for exposing these warning signs.

    • Debbie Bills says:

      Hi Christine,

      You are welcome. Hope no one is taking you for granted. Have a wonderful day and thank you for stopping by and taking the time to share.
      Blessings to you,
      Debbie

  17. I’ve known some stable foreign guy who is taken for granted by some young girl. He’s spoiling him, giving her what she wants – material things and money, money, money. If she ever wont get what she wants, she’s trying to mess up her Facebook status.

    And the most crucial is I don’t see any effort from him to appreciate him. That’s really sad, but I guess Love is Blind? Or he doesn’t what means being taken for granted?
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    • Debbie Bills says:

      Sounds like he is being taken for grant. It is sad that some people thing and feel that money and material stuff is more important that LOVE. Money can not buy happiness and some are going to learn that the hard way.

      Thanks for sharing,
      Debbie

  18. ricky mori says:

    from he first i marry my wife..everything feels so perfect..i mean when i think about her olways beside me..everytime every day..hmmm..the love of my life…
    but when i rollback from the start..i feel im the only whos always loving her…i mean..i cant barely feel a thing that im being treat as special to her..theres no thank you for loving me.,.theres “love you” a couple of times…but for me a luv you is just a word..you must feel it to ryt?..
    she didt make some conversation about our life today.,.does she love it or she have a problem with our living today..,.sorry for my english but it sounds like that..so mrs debbie..your site helps punch out of my thoughts.,.could you analyz this for me..and maybe you can help me with this.,.i always feel like ive being taken for granted..,bcaus when im going to work..theres no..TAKE CARES,or GOOD BYE.. =(

    • Debbie Bills says:

      Hi Ricky,

      You need to let your wife know how you are feeling. Start telling her that you love her, do little things for her. Sometimes when we do things first our partner will follow our lead. Ask her if there are any needs that she feels you are not meeting. And than let her know what you need from her. Communitcation is the biggest factor in relationships. Our partners can not read our minds, so we have to let them know what it is we need from them. Always say, “This is how I feel” That way you are not acusing them of anything, just letting them know how you feel.

      Good luck and keep those communication doors open.
      Debbie

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