Every one of us has come across bullying at some point in our lives. Children can be cruel to others, as they try and find their own place in the world, and understand 
difference. In every school all over the world, there are kids who are ‘in’, and kids who are ‘out’. Small things such as physical appearance, accent or clothing can mark a child out as a potential victim of bullying from cruel children.
Bullying isn’t just something that happens to children
As we get older and leave school, we expect to leave the world of bullying and cruelty behind. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. The corporate environment is renowned for being a hotbed of subtle bullying, whether through sexual discrimination or simply poor management. While the children who were bullied at school may have moved on, they are sometimes more likely to be marked out as victims again. This can be due to poor self-esteem and a lack of courage when it comes to defending themselves against stronger peers. It may be time to “Take Command of Your Self-Esteem.”
The problem is, the less confidence someone has, the more likely they are to be picked on by other people. This ends up being a vicious cycle of negativity which feeds the low self-esteem of the victim.
While children in school usually have the option of talking to someone about their problems, whether it is their parents, friends or a teacher, the world of work can be a lot tougher. This means that people who are being bullied often don’t bring the problem out in the open.
Bullying at work can happen in a range of ways.
Someone ignoring you in the workplace, a manager who is dismissive, unfair, or not being invited on social events is all forms of bullying. These subtle but damaging events can really bring you down and reduce your confidence. (I had this experience in the corporate world and that is the reason I’ve written a e-book on, “Take Command of Your Self-Esteem”, which has been published.)
Many people feel embarrassed when they find themselves being bullied, because they imagine it is a situation that they should be able to manage and change. However, if we have low self esteem anyway, we are less likely to be able to deal with being bullied.
It’s really important to talk to someone if you are being bullied, regardless of the situation, many times, rather than being judged; the person being bullied will be given support and can take steps to change the situation through controlled means.
Moving on from past negative experiences
Whether you were bullied at school, or are still being bullied now, it’s important to take control of the situation. A great first step to change is to go on an empowering course. These courses are designed to teach you tricks to deal with overbearing or unreasonable people easily, without causing further friction. Simple steps like learning to say ‘No’ can make a huge difference to your self- esteem and sense of self, empowering you to make positive changes.
Bullying thrives on secrecy. Talk to people, whether it is your work colleagues, supervisor or manager. If you feel you can, you could even address the person who is making you feel uncomfortable. Try explaining that their behaviour is difficult, and suggest ways that they could treat you with more respect. It’s possible that an overbearing person has no idea that their actions are distressing. Even if they do know it, it could help to politely but firmly tell them that it is time to stop.
I wish you well with resolving this issue, if it is affecting you at the moment. Have courage – you can change this, and get back to Happy again.
Take control of the bullies, you deserve much better!
Debbie
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Debbie
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Debbie
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