There are a lot of products and books out there on Happy… Some are OK and you can learn from them. Others not so much! They make Happy sound so hard, like training for a marathon. You don’t need to train yourself to be happy. It is all around you. It can be as easy as learning to be grateful.
I'm happy, Why aren't you?
(You are probably wondering why I have the picture of a pet, Keep reading and you will understand.)
Have you ever sat there and listened to a negative person, telling you all about there problems. I really want to slap them along side of the head. Tell them to wake up. Everybody has problems, if we didn’t have problems we would be dead.
We do not live in a perfect world and we never will. Why make this life journey any harder than it is? Learn to enjoy what we do have or it’s going to be a ruff ride. If you like that ruff ride and enjoy being sad and feeling sorry for yourself you might as will quite reading what I have written, it’s just not going to do you any good.
Now on the other hand if you are looking for answers to your sadness and want to stop feeling sorry for your self, you can keep reading. This would be good. I’m proud of you!
Here are a few things we are going to start with to help you get on the road to Happy the easy way.
1. Replace hate if you have any, with LOVE. Love makes you grow and become the best person you can be. Hate will destroy you not them.
2. Develop a good winning attitude. Attitude is everything and it controls your future. The thoughts and beliefs you hold do control your future; finances and personal relationships with others. What you think you are, you are!
3. You can be successful in anything, if you have passion. Little things or big things, when they are done with passion we feel like we have accomplished something and this is very fulfilling and makes us happy. Keep up the little things and do them with passion every day and you will see the happiness coming into your life day after day.
4. Let go of any negative feels (anger, fear, blame and past hurts). All of these feelings are normal, but what we do with them and how we look at them are what really counts. These feeling are learning experiences. Now when we learn from them there is no need to hold onto them.
5. Forgive yourself for what you think you may have done wrong in the past. If you feel you have done something wrong in the past, how can you look toward the future if you don’t let go of it. Keep in mind that none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes, because that is part of learning as we go through life.
6. You are unique. Do not compare your life with someone else’s. By comparing yourself with someone else you are insulting your Maker. You are taking away your purpose from the world. Ever individual is made so they can contribute to the world and touch the lives they were meant to touch in their own special way.
7. Love your life and wait to worry. Do you know what you were worrying about last year? Stop worrying about things before they even happen. At least wait until you know there is a reason to worry.
8. Motivate yourself like there is no tomorrow. You never know when your time is up, so live like you were dying. It can change your world.
9. Find your purpose and discover yourself. It is never too late to do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.
10. Never be a victim. If someone walks into your house and throws garbage in your house, what are you going to do? You will either take it back out yourself or ask them to remove it. Now if someone tries to put garbage in your mine, don’t except it. Look at them and say; “I’m sorry I don’t allow people to put garbage in my mind. I really feel bad that you felt you had to do that.”
Now, if you have a pet or have ever been around one all you see is happiness when observing them. Why is this? (I know there are people out there that will say, “Not an abused one” and you would be right, but I am referring to the normal happy pet.) Pet’s are just grateful and they don’t worry about the small stuff we make into big stuff for no reason!
If you have any more tips on the secret to happiness that have worked for you I would love to hear from you. Just add your tip in the comment box. Thank you and may you all be blessed with happiness daily.
Debbie
P.S. I’m not going to beat around the bushes here, so I’ll just state it up front: I am trying to sell the shirts, so if you think they are cute pick one up, I would be grateful. LOL
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Dear Debbie -
This is a great list. Will read it over several times so it really sinks in.
I particularly liked this one -
“4. Let go of any negative feels (anger, fear, blame and past hurts). All of these feelings are normal, but what we do with them and how we look at them are what really counts. These feeling are learning experiences. Now when we learn from them there is no need to hold onto them.”
We really do not know what is going on in another person’s mind. Why did they choose to hurt us?
It will probably come out sometime – but in the meantime – just drop it and wait. Maybe we’ll never know. But holding on is damaging to our well being.
Dear Corinne,
That is probably one of the hardest ones. Words can hurt very deeply at times. That is why when I get anger or hurt from someone I try really hard not to respond right away. You are so right we never know why someone may have “choose to hurt us” and maybe in time it will come out.
I do have a sister that can hurt you and she isn’t even aware of it. When you try to talk to her about it it just doesn’t get through. I have learned to except her the way she is, but at the same time kind of let things go in one ear and out the other and realize she has the problem not me.
Thanks Corinne and you have a very happy day Sweet Lady,
Debbie
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““Motivate yourself like there is no tomorrow”
This one jumped out for me.
We have to be careful that the motivation is not only aimed at work situations. We have to motivate ourselves to do things we want to do outside of the work situation as well.
Andrew
.-= Andrew @ Blogging Guide´s last blog ..173 Tips For A Quality Life While Working From Home =-.
Hi Andrew,
I feel that one is real important and yes you are right it shouldn’t be aimed at just work situations. Never forget the outside world. We work to live not live to work.
Let me tell you a short story about that one that I have never forgotten. When I was 17 years old I had this guy friend. Had talked to him one evening at the local hang out. When I got home later my mother ask me, “Don’t you run around with Steve Green?” I said “yes, great guy and lots of fun”. She said, ” I just hear on the TV that he was killed in a car crash.” I learned that night to always enjoy every day, because things can always change quickly. Guess that is why my hubby sometimes calls me the “energize bunny”
Any way that is my story and I am sticking to it.
Thanks Andrew and may you always be happy and live to the fullest.
Debbie
Thanks so much for the great article! Letting go of blame is my favorite tip. I think so much time and effort is wasted on blame — we can use the time and effort wasted on blame to do something so much more productive and satifying!
You are so right about pets too! I have a dog and two cats — love them!
Hi Lisa,
I love the way pets never ask for anything and just give love. When things go wrong there is always something or someone to blame it seems. You know life just happens and blame just prolongs the healing if there needs to be some.
Enjoy those pets when you do get down they are always there to feel bad with you. Love the way that works.
Thanks Lisa and have a very wonderful happy day.
Debbie
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My thought on happiness is never have happiness as a goal itself. It occurs whilst you are focussed on doing something else, not trying to be happy. The more you think about it, and try to analyse whether or not you are happy, the more it will fade away.
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Hi David,
You bring up a good point, however there are many people out there that have no idea what it is like to be happy. They know about the quick fixes, like new house, new clothes, and all the material things that bring happiness for a short time. But really be happy on a daily and hourly bases, not so much.
Take a young person starting out in life. Everyone wants to know what you are going to be when you grow up. Society tells us we need to have a career and make lots of money. Before you know it your life is half over and you have money, but forgot to enjoy the good stuff in your life. Question is: what is important financial happiness or emotion happiness?
I don’t try to be happy I am happy, because I stop to be grateful for what is in front of me every day. I want to teach people to see where happiness is. Look for it in the right places, just like you would look for a partner all in the right places.
Sounds to me like you have found your happy and this is wonderful
Debbie
I liked “Never be a Victim”. If you got yourself into it, you only need you to get yourself out of it. I love that! Makes me happy to know it.
.-= Bruce´s last blog ..Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-07-25 =-.
Thank you Bruce. Other then criminal behavior if you find yourself a victim you let this happen and only you can stop it. There have been times in my life where I would let myself be a victim and when I hear someone talk about the garage in the mind it did hit home plate with me. It made me change. Thank heaven.
May happiness always be with you. Have a great weekend
Debbie
Taking Corinne’s and others lead about choosing one that speaks to us, I choose this one:
Forgive yourself for what you think you may have done wrong in the past.
especially as a mom and daughter and wife – we often do things to our family that later looking back, seems wrong. I try not to lash out in anger.. but oh golly gosh, my six year old knows how to push my buttons.. so now I forgive myself for all my bad parenting…
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Hi Michelle,
One thing I learned when it comes to parenting. Is that a child is an adult when they learn to forgive there parent or parents for what they think they did to them. Parenting is one of the hardest job in the world and we do make mistakes and have to forgive our selves once in a while. We learn along the way, just like the child does. But to me it is the most rewarding job in the world.
Glad to hear that your are forgiving yourself for all the bad parenting, we all have to do that once in a while. lol
Have a great weekend and good luck with the six year old. Just remember when you what to cry just laugh. It helps.
Debbie
Dear Corine,
An inspriring list. It’s so important not to carry around unnecessary baggage.
Sometime the best solution to fix the mind is to go outside. Get a fresh perspective: a little excercise, admire nature: hike, walk (or ski) and your silly little negative grudge will disappear. like a reset button on a computer.
.-= Lance Nelson´s last blog ..Tsvetana Pironkova From Plovdiv- The Next Famous Bulgarian =-.
Hi Lance,
Love your idea of a reset button. We all need to think of those hurts and just reset the button. Thanks Lance for a wonderful thought I shall remember it.
You have a wonderful weekend and let the happiness flow.
Debbie
Hi Debbie,
I love the items 5, 6, and 8. Letting go of the past and forgiving oneself is for me one of the greatest starts in finally achieving that happiness again that we had since we’re still a child. Child can easily be happy and so we are too in small or large things that we encounter but since there are more problems that come by, thinking too that we are unique and that this is the last day of our lives would motivate us to face these challenges, take action and enjoy the rest of our days on a regular basis.
Life is too short so we have to live from it…happily
Tyrone
Hi Tyrone,
Letting go of the passed and forgiving can be a big one, but very important. What I have learned to do is understand the other person that hurt you. In this way you can forgive them for there lack of knowledge and then you feel bad for them and can move on.
One time i had someone explain uniqueness like this; When we are created there are millions of sperm trying to get to that egg first. We are very unique and special, because we did win the biggest race of our life. With that in mind there really isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we put our mind to it. As I stated in Andrews comment I learned at an early age just how short life can be and how quickly it can change.
Thank you Tyrone for your input and enjoy all the happiness in every corner of your life. May it always be there for you.
Debbie
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Debbie, the list resonates with me. There can be many different ways of reaching happiness. An example of this is the belief “we do not live in a perfect world.” The vast majority of people believe accepting “we do not live in a perfect world” is key to happiness, but happily
for others seeing “we live in the only world there is” works just as well.
- Beat
Hi Beat,
I like that: “we live in the only world there is” works just as well. Just like everything that comes down the turnpike. Just have deal with it the best way you can and walk away happy, because you gave it your best shot.
that Beat and have a great weekend
Debbie
I can’t but agree.I always wanted to write in my site something like that but I guess you’r faster.
Sorry I was faster, but you know there is always room for more.
May you always be blessed with happiness.
Debbie
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A great list, thanks Debbie. Some are a lot harder to achieve than others, and I don’t think anyone will be truly the master of them all. But it’s good advice.
Separate question, but I was on your shop here: http://www.zazzle.com/happymaker and clicking on the folder images such as Men’s Shirts or Hat’s, they go to blank pages, yet I see you do have Men’s shirts and hats? Feel free to delete this part of my comment, I was just wondering why that is?
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Hi Joel,
I have to admit some are harder then others. I’m still working on finding my purpose. LOL
I’ll check the blank pages out. I was looking yesterday for someone a Zazzle to help me with the shop. If you have time and would like to help, pay pal is waiting. Did you like the way I put that.
You my dear friend have a wonderful weekend and thanks for letting me know about the t-shirt site. You are very much appreciated.
Debbie
Just checked it out Joel and you are right. Hope i can figure this one out. Wish me luck
Debbie and thanks again for alerting me.
I do not believe I would be able to keep up with maintaining a website like it! Fantastic job, I seriously would love to see you keep up the pace for a long time.
Oops I see your account has been suspended. Sorry you do have pretty good spam messages.
Got to Love this world and the people in it.
Debbie
Wow, Deb those are some pretty tall orders there! But you’re so right on every one. I know a few people I’d like to slap upside the head as well. I’ll be repeating what you said to them the next time anyone gets all Eeyore on me: everyone has problems. If you didn’t, you’d be dead. Thanks for giving me something new to say!
.-= Amy LeForge´s last blog ..FFYF- Day Off Edition =-.
Hi Amy,
Glad I was there to help. Let me know how it works next time. By the way how are those boys doing?
Keep up the great parenting, nice lady
Debbie
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Hi Debbie,
You’re right. Everybody has problem and it shows that we’re still alive. I remember a nurse told me that it’s okay to feel the pain because it shows that I’m still okay.
.-= Raymond Chua´s last blog ..The Power of Question =-.
Hi Raymond,
I like that “Pain shows you that you are still Okay.” there is a lot of truth in that. If we didn’t have problems I feel life could be rather boring. We wouldn’t have anything to try to figure out.
Thanks Raymond
Debbie
I’m not sure I fathom why so many pundits are making such a big deal over Drew’s ability. I happen to prefer Bob, but both are just great stars and we should be grateful we got to enjoy them both.
You know if you are going to use me to get people to your blog I would really appreciate it if you said something about my blog article rather then talking about the Stars. I could really care less about them. The only thing they do for me is help entertain me when I need some entertainment.
To your happiness,
Debbie
Happiness is a state of mind and it’s not easy to keep in that same state everyday.
Great post … as usual!
Krizia
.-= Affiliate Management Maven´s last blog ..Blog income is not that easy =-.
Hi Krizia,
You are so right happiness is very much a state of mind and sometimes it can be hard to keep that state of mind. That is when attitude comes in handy. We all have our ups and downs, but learning how to handle and confront them with the right attitude is what makes for a happier day when they arrive.
Thank you for the comment and may you always be blessed with happiness.
Debbie
Fascinating post. Were did you got all the details from…
Glad you liked it. My details on happiness come from my brain and learning experience.
Debbie
Ooh shoot i just wrote a large comment and as soon as i strike reply it came up blank! Please inform me it worked correct? I dont want to submit it again if i don’t have to! Either the blog glitced out or i am an idiot, the second option doesnt surprise me lol. many thanks for an excellent weblog!
It is coming up that way, because you are spamming me. I am sure you didn’t even read the blog post so I would appreciate it if you are not interested in what I have to say that you just move on. We all are very busy and you are taking up my valuable time.
You have a wonderful day and please don’t spam people it will only come back to you..
Debbie
Debbie,
I like 8 and 9, and want to add some extra wording to them, “never give up without a fight”. The fight could be an analogy for a careful analysis of something, but if we quit because something isn’t so easy, we’ll never become anything or anyone we want to be.
Living like today is your last is great in some things (spend time with family and friends now), but not a good idea in some others, like ethics. Hopefully, our lives will be long and productive, and we want to be able to sit around at the retirement home telling the truth about a well-lived life. That takes some living with long-term things in the picture.
One example of this that comes to mind is the movie “Groundhog Day” where the reporter has to relive the same day over and over again until he learns the proper lessons about life.
.-= Sherri–Being the Change I Wish to See´s last blog ..Happy Anniversary Social Security =-.
Hi Sherri,
When it comes number 8 that is the way I like to look at every day. When I say this it is just being thankful for that day and enjoying it, loving the people that cross my path that day. Just plan building good memories for the day. It is funny how we do have to keep relive things over if we don’t learn what is suppose to be learned.
I really liked that movies “Groundhog Day.” Thanks Sherri and have a great day.
Debbie
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Debbie
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Hi Irvin,
What can i say other then if that was a spam comment you are very good at it. Will see if the next comment is the same as this one. Have a great day.
Debbie
Great post. Thanks!
Will thank you. May you be blessed with happiness and take up another career besides spamming.
thank anyway.
Debbie