I was out of touch with a group I belong to over this 4th of July weekend. Now I am playing catch up. It has saddened me just a little in reading what has been happening when it comes to an article on “How to Cheat at Writing,” Putting things in your own words isn’t cheating, it is telling a story your way!
Here is what I have found:
When it comes to reading articles or books (relating to answers to problems or self-improvement, etc.) that 2 or more people can have the same thing to say, but using different words is wonderful.
I have to admit I am not one that likes all the big fancy words and if I stumble upon an article with all that I shall try to find my answers someplace else. Now when I find that person that is saying the same thing only using simple words and making the reading easy to understand for me I shall read there article looking for my answers.
When it comes to finding the secret to happiness, there are a lot of people out there talking about this happy problem and a lot of people searching for the answer. So why am I still writing about happiness when others are too? The reason would be;
Some that write about it may have money and always have so they see happiness differently.
Some have a very high education with knowledge from books.
As for me I have lived through the ditches and trenches (and I created some of those by my choices), so I can tell my story in a different way, but at the same time with research learn from other idea’s and put it in simple words. To me this is teaching people that think like I do. Is this wrong?
A good example of this would be The Free Blogging Guide. I have taken other courses on blogging and they helped, but when it comes to The Blogging Guide Course the way Andrew and Joel word things is much easier for me to understand. They may be saying the same thing that someone else is, but putting it into simple words easier for me to understand.
When I am writing about happiness if someone reads what I write and say, “Hey, I like that, but I would word it this way and does.” I am not going to think they are stealing my writing in any way, due to the fact that if they can rewrite my article and it is going to benefit someone else that is the reason I wrote it in the first place. (To benefit others and help them with their happiness.)
Conflict can rob you of your happiness if you don’t have the right attitude. In this group that I am in we have some amazing people. There are two of them that do some amazing interviews (Corinne and Michelle) and each has their own style. Both of these ladies are very important to this planet; because with styles that are different they can help reach out to more people in different way. Got to love it!
Then we have people that teach staying health. When it comes to this topic what works for one may not work for another, but by using different methods of staying health more people will be health
Same goes for teaching blogging as I said before. One person’s way of teaching is good for some people and another person’s way of teaching is good for others, even thought the words may be the same, but put in a different way.
We do have the one that teaches parenting; we can all learn from, others that teach in the self-improvement field and the list goes on. (You can check out my comments to find them all).
What makes for the happiness is that we all have an important role to play in this group and we are all special. Sometimes people may use the same meaning with their words as other people, but in the process be able to reach more people looking for answers using those different words.
Families, communities or groups are like a big wheel, when they all work together for the good of each other the wheel runs smooth. So to keep conflict out of the way of happiness always use communication and the wheel is going to run smoothly. And don’t let those minefields that can come up destroy the wheel. Enjoy the difference everyone adds to a family, community or group. It wouldn’t be special if it weren’t for those differences.
May we all be blessed with happiness!
Debbie
Debbie,
Thanks for the mention in your article. If I thought I had to live up to; or compete with Oprah or Larry King I’d be the opposite of happy.. but since I have my own style I don’t worry about trying to. You are correct – we all have our own styles and can ‘borrow’ from each other.
When I was learning how to paint, we had to ‘copy’ our favorite painter over and over and over again. Then paint a pear 40 times. In the end after copying, and then doing your own over and over you find your unique style. Writing is the same i think, and so is interviewing.
Maybe happiness is the same? Copy someone you know and love who is happy? Act ‘as if’ you are happy?
Then will you be happy? Perhaps, but in your own style.
It takes all of us to have this unique world.
Thanks
.-= Michelle Vandepas´s last blog ..Author Interview with Michelle Epiphany Prosser- Excuse Me- Your God is Waiting =-.
Thank you Michelle. I have always loved that Christmas movie with James Stewart. That one really show how things would be different and the impact one person makes in this world. You said it very right everyone has there own style of happiness. Sometimes it just takes a while for one to find it, just like that special talent to find and take some time.
Have fun showing off your unique qualities, Michelle, you are special,
Debbie
p.s. you are welcome for the mention.
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So simple – “assume the virtue if you have it not” (Shakespeare) – yet so complicated. Seems ‘seeing happiness’ is a bit like ‘seeing things’ in those 3d illusion posters, some get it and others don’t. Most people have the deeply entrenched conviction that there’s more to happiness than meets the eye – that there’s more to it than looking. By contrast, happy people don’t “need” a reason to be happy, in fact, they often admit to not having one (which in the eye of the rightfully unhappy crowd, makes them stupid).
.-= Beat Schindler´s last blog ..Where Americans Are Moving =-.
Hi Beat,
You are right, to unhappy people the happy people look stupid. This is because unhappy people just don’t get it. There attitude is what stops them, so they feel that happy people must be a little loony. Fear sets in when we don’t understand things. The reason for being happy is life itself. Sometimes it can get a little rocky, but hey I am not ready to see what is on the other side yet, so I might as well enjoy where I am.
You have a very happy day Beat,
Debbie
Thanks for the mention, Debbie! I like the idea that we each have a unique place in the world. It’s easier to be happy knowing that I can make contributions that are worthwhile and that can make the world a better place.
.-= Amy LeForge´s last blog ..How To Be Happy- Part 3 =-.
Glad to make a mention Amy and you are welcome. Isn’t it great knowing that we all contribute to this world in our own way to make it a better place. What you are doing with those boys of your is wonderful.
You have a very happy day,
Debbie
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One word: “wow”
Two words: “Simply brilliant”
Three words: “I love you”
Debbie, the way you have written this post is simply amazing. The words just flow and I can really feel the passion coming through. You have come such a long way in a short period and the love and support we get from our group truly helps.
Andrew
P.S. Oh and thanks for the kind words and mention of my products / services.
.-= Andrew @ Blogging Guide´s last blog ..Is Your BLOG Having Low Opt-in rates =-.
Thank you so much Andrew. I couldn’t have done it without you. Thank you for inviting me to be part of the group. Guess what it comes down to is talking from the heart. It is wonderful having you has a friend and mentor.
I am a little speechless with your kind words, so I’ll just say “I love you from across the pond!”
Debbie
Hi Debbie,
Thanks for this. I’m so happy for you that you have honestly laid out your feelings when it comes to your participation as a group member, as a valuable commenter and most especially as a friend who’ve developed relationships within the group who help us realize how happy we should be facing this life full of challenges — conflicts between the lines for instance will always be there.
Though, honestly I’m kind of jealous that my link hasn’t been included there yet. LOL, just kidding.
What matters most is we’ve built this group to not only increase links for IM reasons but we also are building good relationships that whatever happens, we’re still the ones helping each other climb hills to the top.
This is another great post Debbie and you made me smile.
Tyrone
Thank you Tyrone and I will work your link it when you least expect it. I do love this group and I am so proud to get to know all of your. It just keeps getting better. Glad I made you smile.
May you always be blessed with happiness,
Debbie
I have to confess I have shunned the word happiness. I have refused to believe in it or to say it. I never say I am happy, – satisfied, fulfilled, pleased, but never happy. I began reading your blog with some deep skepticism (some would say cynicism) but I have refused to allow outside events to affect my inside feeling. If outside was good it is a bonus but in some situations I have encountered, I have to keep what is outside out there. So, happiness always seemed to be too fleeting and dependent upon circumstances for me to “participate”.
I see in your words that happiness is your expression for your inner peace and gratitude. You express it well. You create in me a desire to see it your way. From my words, you can see that I “see” very differently. Thanks for taking me on this inner journey. Your experience and outlook give you a peace that you have eloquently expressed without ever saying it – I feel it though your writing in this post. Good work – thanks for your effort as it made a difference!
.-= Bruce´s last blog ..Heart Attack – one in 3 women over age 50 will experience Heart Disease =-.
Thank you very much Bruce. Yes, happiness is an expression of my inner peace and gratitude. Life has been a rough journey at times, but it has made me stronger and more complete. I am glad that I could make a difference. Bless you.
Oh about the menopause thing, will when the hot flashes hit me and in the summer time it can be worse, I look at them as mini vacation to a tropic climate. That puts some humor in them. It is a joke around my house, like “leave me alone I am taking a mini vacation, catch you in a few minutes.”
You have a wonder week and my you always find happiness,
Debbie
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Hi Debbie,
Thanks for the article.
May you blessed with happiness too.
.-= Raymond Chua´s last blog ..Attracting Wealth With the Law of Attraction =-.
Hi Raymond,
It was my pleasure. Thanks for dropping in on my blog and blessing me with happiness.
Hoping that you have happiness too, take care and I shall see you at your blog.
Thanks again Raymond,
Debbie
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I feel there’s not much to say in addition to the other comments but wanted to say something. A very well written and thought out article, nice for an end of the week smile!
.-= Joel´s last blog ..More Income Blogging Guide Feedback =-.
Hi Joel,
Thanks for adding a nice comment. Very glad you liked the article and it brought out that great smile of yours.
You have a very happy evening,
Debbie
Twitter: thatgirlisfunny
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Hi Debbie,
Thanks for the mention in your article! Thank you even more for being a bridge and for allowing us to have salt and sugar in our conversational recipes. More sugar than salt works best for all of us. I’m reminded of how different our points of view are. To be happy, I’ve found that I have to give up trying to adjust another’s view to match mine. It’s way more fun to notice what they’re seeing that I am missing
.-= Cheryl from thatgirlisfunny´s last blog ..15 Things You Didn’t Know About Michael Jackson Infographic =-.
Hi Cheryl,
You are welcome. It is fun to see other peoples points in matter. Great way to learn from one another. This world would be pretty boring if we all saw and did things the same.
You have a wonderful happy day and I’ll keep that sugar coming with a pinch of salt.
Debbie
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Thanks for caring and yes i feel i am operating very well.
You have a happiness always along your path.
Debbie
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Thank you Jenee. Glad I could help.
You have a wonderful happy day
Debbie