Can a good argument bring happiness?
Have you ever been so angry with your significant other, that you couldn’t bring yourself to talk to them? Sometimes, living with someone else can be tough. You’re with each other more than anyone else, and even the best couples find themselves becoming frustrated at times.
Why do we argue with the person we love most?
If we’re feeling stressed or anxious about something, it can be tough to keep a brave face and stay calm and kind. It’s natural that our partner, as the one who sees us exactly as we are, all the time, should be the one who we sometimes lash out at. If the house is messy, or we feel that we don’t have enough time to do what we need to do, we sometimes turn on our partner, because they are the closest thing to us, and they share responsibility for our environment and the stresses that occur.
We know, on some level, that it’s allowable to have a go at our partner. They are there through thick and thin, and we understand that if we snap at a partner it won’t have lasting consequences. If we offend a friend or family member, it’s more dangerous, and there is no guarantee that rifts can be mended. This is why we often use our significant others as verbal punching bag – because it’s safe!
Letting the little things escalate
When we are feeling frazzled, every single thing can tip us in to temper. The dog is barking, or the bathroom needs cleaning, and we bark away at our partners instead of tackling the real issues. It can be so easy to let things build up instead of stepping back and taking everything in perspective.
Essentially, there’s no harm in lashing out at your partner, as long as you’re quick to apologize and accept responsibility soon afterwards. One of the best parts about being with someone is that we are loved unconditionally, and the person closest to us understands when we are stressed or upset. The best relationships don’t hold grudges, and this means you are safe to be yourself completely- even if that self is snappy and unreasonable!
How to get to happy despite the bickering
I’ve learned a few things about arguing. The first important rule is to never, ever, go to sleep on an argument. Even if you are still seething, take a moment to have a hug and explain that you are angry, and why. Holding angry thoughts upsets your sleep, makes you feel lonely and sad, and takes away from your relationship.
Our partners, just like us, are there to support. They understand that at times things can get tough, and they know that in a way it is a privilege to share our lives in every respect. If you are on the receiving end of a good tongue-lashing, stand back and remember that it is because you are so close and loved that your partner feels safe enough to let go. Having a good argument? It could hold the secret of relationship happiness!
Does a good argument help your happiness in your relationship? Let me know how you feel about this.
Debbie
I truly loved this brilliant article. Please continue this awesome work. Regards, Duyq.
I shall give it my best. Thank you Duyq for the kind words.
May you be blessed with happiness.
Debbie
I think it’s important to be able to feel like you can air any grievance with your partner if you need to. I do, however believe that it’s very important to play nice, and play fair. Also, if no solution is coming from it, then it might be time to go calm down, and try again later. I also believe it’s not ok just to lash out at a partner, just to make yourself feel better. Grievances should be aired as constructively as possible
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You are so right when you say, “it’s not OK just to lash out at a partner.” That is being very selfish and a good way to loss a good partner. Maybe I’ll have to do a article on fighting fair. Thanks for the idea. It is appreciated.
May you always find happiness.
Debbie
Dear admin, thnx for sharing this blog post. I found it wonderful. Best regards, Victoria…
Thank you Victoria, I am glad that you enjoyed it. Anything else you would like to talk about when it comes to happiness?
May you be blessed with happiness,
Debbie
Great post
Having a great argument is one of the keys to happiness because we can have chace to show our ideas,our thought.
After having an agurment,we can understand one another more and it;s the key to happiness
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If we know how to argue fair it can be fun. And yes we can understand each other better. Thank you for sharing with your opinion, it is appreciated.
Blessing to you, Debbie