Sometimes, we can be our own worst critic when it comes to judging ourselves, and our actions. Have you ever heard a stunning person say “I look so ugly today”, or “Why would anyone want to be with me?”
The trouble is, even when the whole world can see that you are a loving, attractive and generally great person, you can’t see it yourself. It takes a real effort of will for people with low self-esteem to learn to love themselves. This can make the difference between feeling down, and feeling happy.
People with self-esteem issues are generally more introverted, quiet and subdued than their confident counterparts. When we doubt our own value, it is almost impossible for us to show other people just what that value is. Instead, we hide away, judging ourselves more harshly than anyone else ever could.
Listen in on this conversation – does this sound familiar?
“Hi, you look lovely today. I like your top.”
“I don’t know how I look lovely. I’m tired; and this old thing? I’ve had it years.”
“Oh.”
People who can’t accept compliments are pushing the goodwill that has just been extended to them away, making it difficult for the compliment-giver to respond. Our little voices that tell us we are useless or stupid or ugly wear away at our energy and leave us feeling deflated.
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When was the last time you took a compliment, and not only believed it, but accepted it properly? Instead of letting your inner sceptic nag away at you saying ‘they don’t mean it’, or ‘they’re just being kind’, how about simply thanking the person and moving on? You can keep the compliment somewhere safe and wheel it out again when you need a boost!
Loving yourself – tough, but worthwhile
Sometimes when we are feeling a bit low it can be really tough to remember just how great we really are! It can be amazingly empowering to simply sit for a moment and tell yourself that you are a good person. Think of how you have helped people over the past few days. The chances are your conversations and actions have really been positive for other people. You will have listened to a good friend, been there for your family and probably smiled at someone on the sidewalk. You do these small things every day – don’t take them for granted and forget just how great you really are.
Why not sit down and brainstorm all the small things that you have done over the past few days, to remind yourself what you have done, what you have achieved, and who you have helped? Include everything you can think of, from walking the dog to hugging someone. All these small acts make up who you are, and make you valued to other people around you.
Taking the first steps towards loving yourself will make a real difference to the way you feel inside, and how you come across to other people. You are a truly stunning person – don’t forget!
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To your very happy life, you are special,
Debbie
Debbie, great advice here for changing focus and improving mood.
Whenever I’m feeling a bit discouraged, I like to look back over my life and think about the successes I’ve had in my life, both personal and professional. It helps me put the present in perspective and makes me feel better and more motivated.
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Hi John,
I know what you mean. We all have to pull things back into perspective once in awhile. I like to call it “Regrouping”
I believe it all starts with loving yourself and that opens us up to be loved.
You have a happy day
Debbie
Thanks Debbie. I love your smile in your gravatar! I’m taking new pics now to put on my sites and for a new gravatar.
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Thank you John. I shall keep smiling even if it does show a few more ripples.
Have a wonderful day and i am looking forward to seeing that new picture.
Debbie
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I am pleased that you liked, please return for further happy tips.
Debbie
Interesting and great stuff you got here. Keep posting! I am usually looking to read on that topic.
Thank you Neta. I will keep posting and hope you enjoy what I have to say. If there is anything you would like me to talk about just drop me a line.
To your happiness,
Debbie
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Thank you very much. I am please that you enjoyed it. I shall keep writing.
Debbie
I just wanted to comment and say that I really enjoyed reading your blog post here. It was very informative and I also digg the way you write! Keep it up and I’ll be back to read more in the future
Thank you very much. Hope to see you in the future and stay happy.
Debbie
Nothing in this world is so powerful as an idea whose time has come
I trust you and it certainly likely to guide many people.
Hi Nichol,
I hope this article can help guide people and thanks very much for the trust. It is appreciated.
May happiness always be yours.
Debbie
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Cheers!
Hi Messi,
I am very happy that you like my blog. It makes for my happiness all day long.
May happiness always be with you.
Debbie
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Thank you very much.
Always choose to be happy,
Debbie
Thank you very much. i am glad that you like it and enjoyed reading it. It is great to have someone digg my write.
thanks again.
Debbie
Thanks and I shall keep writing. Your comments are appreciated.
Always choose happiness,
Debbie
You’ve made my day a tiny little bit easier to consider after reading your article
Hi Jeramy,
Glad that I could be of service to you. Hope to hear from you again.
May happiness always be there for you,
Debbie
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Hello Donte,
Yes i will check out your blog. Best wishes and hope you love yourself always.
Debie
You have to love yourself and have high expectations when it comes down to it. Having confidence is the most sexiest anyone can ever be!
Hi Susan,
I believe that when you do love yourself you put higher expectations on yourself. And yes, having confidence can make one much more sexier. Thank for your input.
May you always have happiness,
Debbie
Hi Debbie,
Worthy post. When you are critical of yourself i make it difficult for others around you to complement on you.Hence as you said accept the complements gracefully and love yourself to be happy.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. may god bless you and keep going.
God doesn’t make junk, so when we don’t love ourselves we are telling him, he does make junk. Not good. We are a special. People do like to be around once that do like themselves, but are humble at the same time.
God Bless you always, and thank you for sharing with me and my readers. It is always appreciated
Debbie