Love Your Siblings Unconditional and Choose Happiness

Conflict with siblings is virtually inevitable. We have to remember that conflict isn’t the problem, but how we handle it.  Obviously if we handle

Choose Happiness and Communicate

conflict wrong it can tear people apart; on the other hand if handled in a loving way it brings us closer together and bring happiness within..

Next time you are dealing with conflict from a sibling or even parents keeps these tips in mind.  Disagreements followed by poor communication skills can be a source of anger and distance.  When we learn good communication skills those disagreements can be a springboard to a stronger relationship and happier future.

Try these 5 communication tips:

1. Listening: Have you ever been listening to someone and you are thinking of what you are going to say when they get through.  NOT SO GOOD.  Really listen and don’t interrupt.  True effective communication goes both ways.  Just hear them out and you will be better at understanding them and they are going to be willing to listen to you.

2. See their point of view: This is very important.  People look at any given situation differently and we have to try understanding their view of the situation. By trying to understand the other side, you can explain yours much better and they are going to be willing to understand your side.

3. Keep the Focus: At times we are tempted to bring in past related conflicts.  This can cloud the issue and make finding mutual understanding and a solution more taxing.  Stay focused on the present with feelings and understanding to find a solution.

4. Don’t Blame, but own what is yours: Personal responsibility is a strength, not a weakness. Communicating effectively involves admitting if you are wrong. Try to set a good example if the situation needs defused.  In this way it inspires the other person to respond with kindness leading to a solution.

5. Look for compromise not a win: Wins are not what is important, but solutions are.  That gives both what is wanted.  What brings happiness to both people is healthy communication involving a solution and both people are happy with.

TIPS:

Winning or being right is not the solution for happiness within, but effective communication skills with mutual understanding and seeking the right solution.

It is always clearly important to stay respectful of each other, even when their actions are bothering you.

In some situations it helps to hug one another or stay connected with a hand on the shoulder while talking.  This makes each person feel like they are really cared about and supported.

What communication skills work for you?

May happiness always be yours,

Debbie