Everyone has his or her own definition of a happy life.  If you want to choose happiness, you may want to model people who are living a happy life; this movie reminds me of these very people, “You Are The Light of the World.”

Here are 5 things that have helped me conquer unhappiness and find my happiness within:

1.  Certainly enjoying what you have:
Don’t worry about what your neighbor has, so he bought a new car.  Just be really grateful that you have a car and it starts when you turn the key on.   Little things really add up and we have a way of overlooking them.  What do you have that your forgetting to enjoy?

2. Having loving personal relationships:
Occasionally the spouse can be a pain in the neck or the children are bouncing off the walls. When you are having those days, just stop and visualize what life would be like if these people that you love weren’t there anymore.

When I’m talking to someone in my family; before I leave or hang up the phone I always tell them I love them.  I do this because I know how quickly life can change.  When my husband leaves in the morning for work I always tell him to be safe.  I make a point to say this, because those drives to work can really be challenging at times.  He tells me that when he has those challenging times he remembers my words and stays calm. Love is patient and we always need to keep this in mind.  Is your love for others patient?

3.  Doing what you love for a living:
This can be hard we all have times when we are not happy with what we are doing.  Let’s start with your job.  Say you really dislike the work you do.  Can you do something about it?  There is no one standing in your way, but you.  Obviously there are times when you have to stay at our job. In this situation it is certainly going to be more enjoyable if we can find the positive side of our work.  Even if we’re digging a ditch, stop and think about the people you are helping, because of that ditch.  You never know how that ditch is going to affect someone’s life.

It’s not what you have to do for a living that counts, but how you react to your work.  Any work can be fun if you want it to be.  Even being home and taking care of those little curtain climbers and that is one of the hardest job to have.  Being responsible for those little lives day after day!
Thank you stay at home moms, keep up the good work.

4.  Living in the present:
What I am saying here is to be fully engaged in what you’re doing and not being tormented by the past or anxious about the future. I know that this can be a little hard to at times, but trust me it is very important.  Let me give you an example that I have experience with in the last couple of year.

My mother who was 87 years old and was not doing will; I brought her to live with me.  Do to the fact that I live in a two story house the stairs were just getting to be too much for her.  I had to find another place for her.  I thought I had a good place, but it didn’t work out and we ended up  losing her.  At first I started to blame myself and kept thinking about how I should have done things differently.

Then I realized that I had done the best job I could under the circumstances and by me going over and over it in my head was not going to change things.  (Besides that, she was 87 and many people don’t make it that long). What I could do was learn from the situation and if anyone I knew ran into the same situation maybe I could help them with what I had learned.

I was losing the fun and happiness in the present by worrying about the past.  This was not doing me any good or anyone else.  My family was really getting tired of me worrying about something that could not be changed.  It is called putting thing in perspective and moving on.  Get my drift?

5.  A sense of well being that comes from knowing you can handle whatever life throws at you:
Everyday life can throw something new at you.  You feel like your feet are on solid ground when you can learn to just go with the flow.

The things that have helped me keep my feet on solid ground in the rough times are:

A sense of humor and always remember “The Sun is going to come up tomorrow.”

Grab hold of that sense of well being, bring out the humor when needed and tackle one thing at a time, so you can enjoy life and look back and laugh about those bad days.

Choose these 5 defining guides to give yourself a happy life. Happiness is a choice, so choose to be happy.

We all need a little inspiration once in a while. Here is a movie you can watch to remind you how important you really are.  “You Are the Light of the World.” Since the launch of this movie, literally thousands of viewers from all over the world have downloaded this beautiful full-movie.   Using the same beautiful photographs and soothing music is what renews your mind and spirit.

Check it out I highly recommend this movie to everyone; “You Are The Light Of The World”.

May you always choose to be happy even in rough waters, because there is a rainbow at the end!

How do you keep your happiness in trouble times? Leave your comment

Debbie