Secret to Happiness: Your Self-Esteem; Conclusion

Your self-esteem is like a star at night that shines brightest when it is the darkest. It is your inner light that burns brightly and freely no matter what is happening around you. A Zen saying reminds us: “What was your original face before you were born?”

let your Star shine

Have you ever just watched a one or two year old?  They don’t care what anybody things about them.  They are just busy doing what they like.  It is really refreshing.  Even if you are in a store or restaurant and there is a child there either being cute or kicking up a storm.  There just doing their thing and it doesn’t really matter who is around.  They haven’t learned about self-esteem, yet.  Nothing is holding them back from being who they really are.  They have happiness within.

Self-esteem is perfectly intact when we are born, in fact, it is inherent to us; however, it often diminishes over the course of our childhood. We lose a little of it whenever we fail, make mistakes, misbehave, feel guilty, refuse to forgive, neglect ourselves, and/or do things we are ashamed of. As an adult, we sometimes feel as if our “self” is in pieces— that we are somehow not whole and complete.

This is not true. We are whole and complete even with our missing pieces and broken parts. We just need to decide to gather up ourselves up and become whole again. I am willing to bet that when you look back over your life, the first thing that comes to mind is the regrets, the sad times in your past.

Do you see the pieces of yourself lying along the path of your life? The ones where you didn’t feel good enough, or where you were criticized or blamed by someone else? But have you ever stopped to look at the memories of when you won the prize, felt really great, on top of the world—-those moments that prove what a wonderfully amazing human being you are?

It is your birthright to love and honor yourself. The good news is that you can reclaim that which is yours.   That is your self-esteem.

There is absolutely no reason at all why people should “suffer” from low self esteem. Your self esteem is something over which you have absolute and immediate control. Think of self esteem as a muscle; it never stays the same for any period of time.

Like any muscle it either weakens or gets stronger. Self esteem improvement is like exercising a muscle. It relies on small incremental improvement on a daily basis. You won’t run out to the gym and have perfect muscles for life in an hour. Consistent self esteem improvement is the only way to lasting success and an increase in the quality of your life everyday you live it.

Your self-esteem contributes to your vitality, energy level, persistence, happiness within and personal magnetism.  Self-esteem is about what is on the inside, a belief in yourself and your abilities. Positive esteem focuses on acceptance of self and others. It remains constant despite the storm. This fosters cooperation and wholeness.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination.

Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

It is never too late to build your self-esteem.  You can start RIGHT NOW! Self-esteem has a big impact on how we enjoy life. Respect others, yourself, and life in general.  Practice the techniques we have given you every single day.  Watch them work wonders in your life.

Become the person you can be and treat you well. You deserve it!  Take out that piece of paper and write down all your good points and concentrate on them.  Write down your talents (everyone has them) and use them to their fullest. You have something to add to this world and this world needs you.  Find your good self-esteem and you will find your happiness within.  Remember it is your birth right.

Look forward to your comments and if I can be of further assistants please let me know.  I have dug my self out of the trenches to improve my self-esteem.  Anybody can do this!

Debbie Dee