I did an article a while back on “Why some people are not Happy and other people very happy.”

In that article I was trying to point out that money really isn’t the answer to happiness.  I do know that yes, in some ways it sure can help.  Hey, I’m not that dumb, but it sure isn’t what makes one happy day after day, week after week and year after year.

When we have a problem what is the first things we have to figure out?

1.Where the problem is coming from?       

2.Why we have this problem.

3.Solutions to this problem.

Getting happy is like solving a problem.  You have to ask yourself some questions about why you are happy or why you are not happy.  If you don’t understand the problem it can’t be fixed.  Let’s get started with a few questions.

Do you have an activity or interest that makes you happy?
Example: My mood can become happier when I’m listening to my favor music. That would be Bruce Springsteen.  Hey, the rhythm of the music just really brings me alive.

What is something that you have learned through the years that has made you happy?
Example:   A hard day’s work, where I feel like I have accomplished something.   Then I feel good about the day and enjoy just relaxing.

When you feel down, how do you bring yourself back up, how do you make that bad day to a good day?
Example: I concentrate on the good things in the day and laugh about some of the not so good things.

Is there something that you have done offend that gets in your way of being happy?
Example:  When it comes to other people’s action, I have had to learn to walk away and realize that I have no control over this, so they don’t rain on my parade.

When you see a happy person, what are they doing that you are not doing?
Example: They are enjoying the moment they are in.  Having fun just breathing even when nothing  is going on.  Enjoying the space they are in.

Is there a time in your life that you felt very happy?  What was happening at this time?
Example:  When I was a single parent and we were having a snow storm.  The electricity had gone out and we were all sitting in the kitchen at the table playing a game.

Is there a time in your life that you felt very unhappy?  What was going on in your life at that time?
Example:  When I was dating my husband and he was so scared of getting to close to me, because he didn’t want to get hurt or be used again.  Then I realized that No matter how he acted or felt, he couldn’t stop me from loving him. Whether he wanted to accept it was up to him, but he couldn’t take it from me.

Have you ever been surprised by something you thought would make you happy, but didn’t?
Example:  When I sold my condo and made a good sum of money on it.  I invested some of it and spent the rest.  Now I look back on it and wonder why I didn’t invest more of it, because what I spent it on I really didn’t need. I had fun at the time, but the fun didn’t last very long.

Take these questions and put in your answers.  Maybe it will help show you your path to more happiness.  Remember if you’re not happy there is a reason.  It is just a problem that needs solved. If there are any questions I could have added please leave them in the comment.  Thank you.

You can do this. There is a solution to every problem.  See you on the side of happiness.

The Happy Side
Debbie Dee